Connect with yourself first in life

Connect with yourself first in life

I have learned over the years that if you are not able to connect with yourself you will never be able to connect with others. I’m sure you have heard the saying to Love yourself first.  Well it is a bit of the same concept.

In life we look for connections, relationships and friendships. Maybe you try so hard to fit in with the cool kids, only to find out that you have nothing in common with them and they could care less about what you do or who you are. They don’t know you because you are not being you. You are trying to be someone else; one of the cool kids. You may not even realize you aren’t being yourself until it is to late and your wrapped up in a bunch of negativity.

Life will be easier if you first take the time to discover who you are, what you want, and your own values and goals. Align yourself with you first.  Those people you previously tried to impress are just acquaintances in a world full of faces.

Your goal should not be to change to fit in, but find the faces in the world that align with you. That have things in common with you.  You will always have differences, and that is OK. That is what can make a friendship true.  It’s the respect for one another. You don’t want to be another persons mirror image, cause then you lose yourself.

“Find the faces in the world that align with you”

As an adult I feel that peer pressure can be just as bad when you were in High School. The cool kids, what to do, where to go, how to take care of your kids, how you look.  I am here to tell you if that matters to you you have not taken the time to connect with yourself and find YOU.  Don’t be ashamed of YOU.  We are all unique.

The goal now is to take that time to connect with yourself. Find time to sit quietly and think about what is truly important to you; call it meditating, sit in prayer, or focus on the good energy around you. What do you enjoy doing; exercising, reading, napping, drawing….go do it!

For myself, doodling has allowed me to find myself and connect with me.  It shows me that I’m not perfect, but I am my own unique self. Which has been my goal all along.  It is a time of quiet and calm that resets my energy and reminds me to focus on whats important to me and my values.

And for all the haters, negativity pushers, and naysayers, I say….NOT MY CIRCUS…..NOT MY MONKEY!



Contact me to get help on making your own connection map or how to find the time to do the things you enjoy!

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Sketchnotes for Beginners

Sketchnotes for Beginners

On January 11th, I took to Periscope to talk about World Sketchnote Day 2017.  I had so much fun teaching others about sketchnotes that day.  In case you could not catch the “scope” I have summarized some of the key points.  The link to the live Periscope is also below so you can watch.


So, what exactly is a sketchnote? To me it is a visual way to take notes. One thing I have learned is that to take good notes you don’t need a word for word dictation. Let me tell you I really wish someone would have told me this in school.  I always thought I needed to write every word down! Instead you highlight the important concepts and the key points.  It is a great form of reference to go back and remember an entire presentation.

When most people think of taking notes, you think of jotting down words on a page, and maybe even numbers.  Well, with sketchnotes you make the same ideas look interesting on the page. At any time in our lives we are placed in a situation where we want to take notes; school, board room, Continuing education (you know the dreaded but needed CLE), PTA meeting, doctor’s office, church, while reading or listening to a book.  The list can really go on and on.  It usually equates to you being the listener and someone else doing the presentation.  How many times in the past year have you been in a situation like this?

You don’t need anything fancy to start. Any piece of paper or pen will do. Even an old receipt or napkin on the table will work.  I have added some of the tools in My favorite things, found under products and services to help get you started, if you prefer to skip the napkin!

But lets review the basics and what you can add to make your boring word notes into something you actually want to look at again.


Use different Fonts; All Caps, small caps, block letters, Sans serif

Use bullets shaped like stars or books, pencils or squares

Since you probably are not aware of the points of the presentation decide a layout for your notes. Left to right, Circular, or maybe columns

Add a frame to a word or title. Use speech bubbles.  Or how about the comic book “BAM” emphasis to make it look like it is exploding.

Arrows and different line connectors help build your ideas and connect them together

Add faces. We all connect with people and emotions so add them to your notes.

Last, but not least is color!


Add this to your sketchnote


So now you’re asking WHY, should I take the time do this.  The great part is that it really doesn’t take any longer then writing down words on a piece of paper.  Plus, visual communication does not stop with the spoken language you are fluent in.  Everyone can understand a picture even if they don’t understand the written words.


Engage your audience or ensure you are actively listening

Remember what is being said

Organize your ideas in one place and summarize the key points

The human brain sees and thinks in pictures not words

Connect different ideas together

Learn something new

Collaborate with others and share ideas


Why Sketchnote


The most important thing to remember is to have fun. And who cares if you wanted to draw a dog but it looks more like a cow! If your only taking notes for yourself, YOU are the only one who needs to understand your pictures.

Check out Periscope TV to watch the broadcast.

The next time you are in a situation to take notes, try using sketchnotes instead of just words.  I would love to see and hear how your experience went.



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Happy New Year; 2017

Happy New Year; 2017

What have I been up to!

I cannot believe that we are already in 2017.  The older I get the quicker the years seem to fly by.  I think that is in part because when we get older we are busier.


After Christmas, I got busy planning for my year.  Call them resolutions, intentions or areas to focus on.  I have been busy drawing out my Vision for 2017.  I bought a book to keep everything in, so I can look at it daily or whenever I need motivation.  This little journal has some empty pages still so I can add to it through the year.  I am now in drill down mode of breaking everything down and getting it onto the calendar.  Every three months I will be reviewing my plan to make sure I am on track and to see if anything needs to be changed or updated.


So many of us start the new year with great goals, but never follow though or just lose sight of them. Two things I did differently this year. One, I choose a word of the year and two on the cover of my journal I drew a symbol to remind me of who I am.  My word of the year is Rapport!  My goal is to focus on building rapport with others by strengthening bonds.  The Infinity symbol is what I am choosing to focus on.   To me it means “My possibilities are endless and I have no boundaries to hold me back. I do not have a start or an end, but rather a life full of continuous experiences that shape who I am”. I’m loving my quote this year, kind of like a Life mission statement!

Last year I focused on Being better than the day before; Better than Yesterday. This year life is about Happiness; Self and Inner Harmony. My Top 5 Values are written out as well. The last two months I have lost track of working out and focusing on myself.  I’m not going to beat myself up over this; really what would be the point of that.  I’m moving on and have obviously written my goals to reflect the need for Self and Inner Harmony.  Fear and Self-doubt will always creep in like the grim reaper, and we need to make sure we push those feelings aside so we can be our best selves.

I am very excited for the year to come, just like I am every year.  But it means new experiences, memories and time to spend with my family and friends. I hope the world is ready, cause I’m ready to share my heart and my work.

Do you write down goals or Visions?  Have you ever tried a word of the year? If you don’t know where to start I can help get them down on paper for you.

Happy New Year!

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